How do you deal with the feeling of becoming invisible as you move through the midlife transition?
It's a story I hear all the time from women who feel they're withdrawing, stepping back, shrinking into themselves.
Looking back I think I tried to combat it by losing a load of weight and becoming obsessive about exercise. I went back to teaching exercise classes and trained to be a personal trainer and a nutrition coach.
I think I was inadvertently trying to over compensate for feeling like I was past my prime. So I was outwardly looking confident and in control but it was a cover for feeling incredibly lost.
But I'm so glad I didn't allow myself to shrink away.
I'm glad that whatever it was inside me that pushed me forward (even if I did feel like a fake at times, especially being the oldest PT on my course!) was strong enough to overcome the inner voice telling me I was too old.
Those feelings of becoming invisible are a narrative of our own making.
We can listen to them and act on them or we can stick a middle finger up to them and push through anyway.
Maybe we won't be seen in the same way as we were when we were younger and maybe we have to make ourselves shout a bit louder to be heard but we can always choose whether to shrink or shine.
You have to step into the new you and be seen for the amazing, talented, unique, beautiful woman you are.
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